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Dear Ricci: How could we have reached an agreement and still be at opposite sides of the ring today?
August 22, 2008
Answer: If you have found yourself at the crossroads of frustration, despite the many meetings to negotiate differences between family members, you may be asking yourself this very question. It is my experience that if every time you are close to reaching a settlement between opposing family members, only to have those agreements disintegrate time and time again, there were too many conditions put upon acceptance. Remember: A family is all about unconditional love. A business is all about what have you done for me lately?
In this type of situation, ask yourself:
- What is your family relationship worth to you?
- Is your family more important than money?
- Is your family more important than status?
- Is your family more important than your ‘stuff’?
- Is your family more important than “being right”?
- Are you really willing to turn your back on each other and become orphans without a family? Money, status and stuff deteriorate. Being right is no fun if you are all alone.
Think carefully now – not with your head, not with your emotions, but with your heart.
If you’re struggling with this situation, step back and rethink the postures of your discussions. You have an opportunity to do something no one else thinks is possible. Ask yourself the question one more time: What is the SINGLE MOST important goal I want to achieve – is it more important to me than the conditions I have attached to it?
If the answer is “yes”, then consider meeting with a renewed commitment to putting the past behind you and creating a new future together. The demands, postures and emotional buttons have got to be abandoned if you are going to create a new future for your family and business. You will have to get out of your comfort zone, and it will take a great amount of courage, faith and willingness to take a chance on each other. Defy the odds and the naysayers. If you believe you can do it, you can and you will!
Posted by Ricci M. Victorio on August 22, 2008 | Comments (0)
