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Difficult Conversation #1: “Man, you’re a downer. You gotta stop.”January 31, 2010 I appreciate articles like this one written by Laura Casey in the Contra Costa Times because they call out the issue of negativity in the workplace and acknowledge the detrimental effects that bad energy has on work environments, people’s attitudes and the business itself. I agree with her overall message that suggests the best way to stay balanced, healthy and happy is to disengage from the people around us who seem determined to color everything in black. In my book, we call those people “Buzzkills,” and find them problematic enough to place on our trusty “Ego Patrol.” But what if it is not possible to eliminate contact with these people, which is probably going to be the case when it comes to work? We know all too well, that we don’t get to choose our coworkers – most of the time. And so this is where it all goes wrong for me. So much of the advice out there focuses on how to avoid the person and his or her damaging impact on you, when it should be, how to face the person head on and get him/her to stop draining the life out of the organization (and you)! If everyone were to take the path of least resistance and ignore the problem, then that person would be left to leak toxic fumes into the very air we are trying to breathe. That makes the path not easier, but harder to navigate later on down the road. Instead, why not just ask the person to stop being such a downer? I do it all the time. If the person doesn’t know how to be positive (or won’t), then trust me, at least you’ll get silence which is far better an alternative than, bitch, bitch, bitch. Posted by Donna Flagg on January 31, 2010 | Comments (8) Industries: Human Resources
February 1, 2010
In response to: Difficult Conversation #1: “Man, you’re a downer. You gotta stop.” SB commented: Bitch, bitch, bitch went the loudmouth. Nag, nag, nag bore the drone. Gripe, Gripe, gripe from the yenta. These Monday's through Friday's are hell.
February 1, 2010
In response to: Difficult Conversation #1: “Man, you’re a downer. You gotta stop.” Donna commented: SB - you OK?
February 1, 2010
In response to: Difficult Conversation #1: “Man, you’re a downer. You gotta stop.” SB commented: Haha! Oh come on! I know it's a bit early for the "Trolly Song," from "Meet Me in St Louis," but ya gotta laugh. Or at least, be true to your adopted West Village/ Chelsea roots. Wouldn't it be fun to play that soundtrack,in that spare room in your office, and dance your tax return off. Special Thanks to Ralph Blane and Hugh Martin.
February 1, 2010
In response to: Difficult Conversation #1: “Man, you’re a downer. You gotta stop.” Donna commented: You're babbling...;)
February 3, 2010
In response to: Difficult Conversation #1: “Man, you’re a downer. You gotta stop.” JAQ commented: How appropriate, I have employed people for over 10 years. I no longer employ any because I am being forced to provide everything for them by the "Govt". Social Security, Insurance, Handle Garnishments for their children..... If my daughter behaved like an employee, I would disown her and slap myself for raising such an incompetant ingrate. I initiated an Attitude not Apptitude policy years ago and it worked! Now with the federal employment standards we are forced to operate under, and the liabiities we are exposed to by law, not even related to the work we perform, I consider it foolish to directly employ anyone. Downers, pay attention, employers will get rid of you first, and the rest of the employees need to develop a positive attitude, and start to earn more for the employer than you cost them. (Not what you take home, but what you really cost them.) Pain and suffering does have a value!
February 3, 2010
In response to: Difficult Conversation #1: “Man, you’re a downer. You gotta stop.” Patti McCracken commented: Several years ago I owned a Preschool. I know own a furniture business. It was easier to manage 40 four year olds than it is to manage my 3 adult employees.
February 3, 2010
In response to: Difficult Conversation #1: “Man, you’re a downer. You gotta stop.” Donna commented: My first boss used to say that all the time...that her kids behaved better than most of the adults she managed that were supposed to be modeling behavior!
February 16, 2010
In response to: Difficult Conversation #1: “Man, you’re a downer. You gotta stop.” jrr commented: I call them >>>Eeyores. I have two of them. One is an anti-government, conspiracy theory, the dog ate my homework, no one tells me anything, clock watcher and the other is I hate my husband and I need to get out of the house, everyone makes more money than I do whiner. I struggle with how to engage them, inspire them get them to enjoy their time in the office (I've given up on thinking they'll like their work). I think it was summed up so well earlier..BUZZKILLERs ! Yes,I'm at fault for keeping them employed. Guess, I'm killing my own buzz.
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